emotional intelligence quotes

Resist the need to be ‚right‘ all the time or to always have the last word.

Occasionally I’ve seen children become heavy-handed and insensitive when dealing with their aging parents, and it only caused resentment and hard feelings.

I have striven not to laugh at human actions, not to weep at them, nor to hate them, but to understand them.

What is uttered from the heart alone, Will win the hearts of others to your own.

A lot of times, people make other people responsible for their joy: ‚You’re not making me happy, you’re not doing this, you’re not doing that.‘

There’s nothing wrong with anger provided you use it constructively.

Too often the strong, silent man is silent only because he does not know what to say, and is reputed strong only because he has remained silent.

Logically, harmony must come from the heart… Harmony very much based on trust. As soon as use force, creates fear. Fear and trust cannot go together.

A disagreement or incident involving someone who’s not that important to you, like a guy who cut you off in traffic or a rude cashier, is something that should roll off your shoulders. Save the effort for resolving conflicts with the people you cherish.

I was always taught not to answer no questions. I’m not really good at answering them because I get agitated so fast.

I am not very good with relationships. With anyone. I can’t be locked up with anyone for too long.

The ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee and I will pay more for that ability than for any other under the sun.

In terms of my involvement in ‚don’t ask, don’t tell‘ and marriage equality and anti-bullying and social emotional learning in schools – these are all things that arise out of my relationship with the world and with my fans.

Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence.

One ought to hold on to one’s heart; for if one lets it go, one soon loses control of the head too.

The purest and most thoughtful minds are those which love colour the most.

I understand aggressiveness in only one way: being prepared to hurt yourself, not someone else.

I’m very sensitive. I remember, as a kid at school, if someone in the classroom was sad or angry, it could have a great impact on me.

Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain always cool and unruffled under all circumstances.

There is such a thing as old emotional pain living inside you. It is an accumulation of painful life experience that was not fully faced and accepted in the moment it arose. It leaves behind an energy form of emotional pain.

I feel like you get more bees with honey. But that doesn’t mean I don’t get frustrated in my life. My way of dealing with frustration is to shut down and to think and speak logically.

Forgiveness is not a feeling – it’s a decision we make because we want to do what’s right before God. It’s a quality decision that won’t be easy and it may take time to get through the process, depending on the severity of the offense.

We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them.

Silence speaks so much louder than screaming tantrums. Never give anyone an excuse to say that you’re crazy.

I want to be a man who is truthful and who won’t let pride get in the way of my ripping myself open to my partner and saying, ‚Here I am. This is me.‘ I feel there’s something powerful when a man reaches a point in his life when he can be completely vulnerable.

Tears shed for self are tears of weakness, but tears shed for others are a sign of strength.

Reacting in anger or annoyance will not advance one’s ability to persuade.

Listening to and understanding our inner sufferings will resolve most of the problems we encounter.

If you’re yelling you’re the one who’s lost control of the conversation.

Tears come from the heart and not from the brain.

We think too much and feel too little.

One must marry one’s feelings to one’s beliefs and ideas. That is probably the only way to achieve a measure of harmony in one’s life.

One of the key qualities a leader must possess is the ability to detach from the chaos, mayhem, and emotions in a situation and make good, clear decisions based on what is actually happening.

A well adjusted person is one who makes the same mistake twice without getting nervous.

The difficult thing is that vulnerability is the first thing I look for in you and the last thing I’m willing to show you. In you, it’s courage and daring. In me, it’s weakness.

I carry a small sheet of paper in my wallet that has written on it the names of people whose opinions of me matter. To be on that list, you have to love me for my strengths and struggles.

The experience of life consists of the experience which the spirit has of itself in matter and as matter, in mind and as mind, in emotion, as emotion, etc.

Take advantage of every opportunity to practice your communication skills so that when important occasions arise, you will have the gift, the style, the sharpness, the clarity, and the emotions to affect other people.

Consider, when you are enraged at any one, what you would probably think if he should die during the dispute.

Respond intelligently even to unintelligent treatment.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

The best leaders are readers of people. They have the intuitive ability to understand others by discerning how they feel and recognizing what they sense.

No person is important enough to make me angry.

Some people carry their heart in their head and some carry their head in their heart. The trick is to keep them apart yet working together.

You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.

To wear your heart on your sleeve isn’t a very good plan; you should wear it inside, where it functions best.

A man who has not passed through the inferno of his passions has never overcome them.

Breathe in deeply to bring your mind home to your body. Then look at, or think of, the person triggering this emotion: With mindfulness, you can see that she is unhappy, that she is suffering. You can see her wrong perceptions. You can see that she is not beautiful when she says things that are unkind.

Meditation is to be aware of every thought and of every feeling, never to say it is right or wrong, but just to watch it and move with it. In that watching, you begin to understand the whole movement of thought and feeling. And out of this awareness comes silence.

I’m not generally a sensitive person, but I tend to be more sensitive toward others and what they’re going through. I don’t know if that’s the healthiest thing, but it’s the truth.

Kids who have an understanding of how and why their feelings are what they are are much more likely to talk to us about what’s happening, and they have better skills to work it out.

It’s no accident many accuse me of conducting public affairs with my heart instead of my head. Well, what if I do? Those who don’t know how to weep with their whole heart don’t know how to laugh either.

There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot.

It is not he who reviles or strikes you who insults you, but your opinion that these things are insulting.

Example is leadership.

The deferring of anger is the best antidote to anger.

Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools.

A quick temper will make a fool of you soon enough.

Why should it be essential to love rarely in order to love much?

Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it.