We want everybody to act like adults, quit playing games, realize that it’s not just my way or the highway.

If you want to know your true opinion of someone, watch the effect produced in you by the first sight of a letter from him.

The thing that we are trying to do at facebook, is just help people connect and communicate more efficiently.

You may either win your peace or buy it: win it, by resistance to evil; buy it, by compromise with evil.

It’s tough to negotiate from a position of weakness.

Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.

You cannot push any one up a ladder unless he be willing to climb a little himself.

If you want to reach the top, don’t run over others. Likely, the only way you’ll reach the top is to be carried there by others.

So when you are listening to somebody, completely, attentively, then you are listening not only to the words, but also to the feeling of what is being conveyed, to the whole of it, not part of it.

After one has been in prison, it is the small things that one appreciates: being able to take a walk whenever one wants, going into a shop and buying a newspaper, speaking or choosing to remain silent. The simple act of being able to control one’s person.

Relationships are the hallmark of the mature person.

Often, I can scarcely hear any one speaking to me; the tones yes, but not the actual words; yet as soon as any one shouts, it is unbearable. What will come of all this, heaven only knows!

Disagreement is something normal.

The language of friendship is not words but meanings.

Only two things are necessary to keep one’s wife happy. One is to let her think she is having her own way, and the other is to let her have it.

Talking with a friend is nothing else but thinking aloud.

I had to resign myself, many years ago, that I’m not too articulate when it comes to explaining how I feel about things. But my music does it for me, it really does.

The Internet has compromised the quality of debate.

Next to doing the right thing, the most important thing is to let people know you are doing the right thing.

When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece.

All of the books in the world contain no more information than is broadcast as video in a single large American city in a single year. Not all bits have equal value.

To lead people walk behind them.

People make suggestions on what to say all the time. I’ll give you an example; I don’t read what’s handed to me. People say, ‚Here, here’s your speech, or here’s an idea for a speech.‘ They’re changed. Trust me.

When I am getting ready to reason with a man, I spend one-third of my time thinking about myself and what I am going to say and two-thirds about him and what he is going to say.

You’re dead if you aim only for kids. Adults are only kids grown up, anyway.

It’s amazing, the culture Coach Belichick has been able to create in our system.

After winning, most teams become individuals; most teams become complacent.

Language is the dress of thought.

Never find fault with the absent.

Silence is safer than speech.

Using e-mail, I can communicate with scientists all over the world.

If we accept being talked to any kind of a way, then we are telling ourselves we are not quite worth the best. And if we have the effrontery to talk to anybody with less than courtesy, we tell ourselves and the world we are not very intelligent.

The major advances in speed of communication and ability to interact took place more than a century ago. The shift from sailing ships to telegraph was far more radical than that from telephone to email!

When he to whom one speaks does not understand, and he who speaks himself does not understand, that is metaphysics.

We don’t get to know people when they come to us; we must go to them to find out what they are like.

No person will make a great business who wants to do it all himself or get all the credit.

When our governments want to sell us a course of action, they do it by making sure it’s the only thing on the agenda, the only thing everyone’s talking about. And they pre-load the ensuing discussion with highly selected images, devious and prejudicial language, dubious linkages, weak or false ‚intelligence‘ and selected ‚leaks.‘

But behavior in the human being is sometimes a defense, a way of concealing motives and thoughts, as language can be a way of hiding your thoughts and preventing communication.

I didn’t just invent saying offensive things.

If you’re talking to a man who wouldn’t fight with you under any circumstances whatsoever, then you’re talking to someone for whom you have absolutely no respect.

I can easily imagine Obama sitting down and talking to any leader – or any person – in the world, with no baggage of past servitude or race supremacy to mar their talks.

There is always another way to say the same thing that doesn’t look at all like the way you said it before. I don’t know what the reason for this is. I think it is somehow a representation of the simplicity of nature.

The strong man is the one who is able to intercept at will the communication between the senses and the mind.

The chain of wedlock is so heavy that it takes two to carry it – and sometimes three.

I maintain that, if everyone knew what others said about him, there would not be four friends in the world.

We can succeed only by concert. It is not, ‚Can any of us imagine better,‘ but, ‚Can we all do better?‘

No one means all he says, and yet very few say all they mean, for words are slippery and thought is viscous.

I know of no single formula for success. But over the years I have observed that some attributes of leadership are universal and are often about finding ways of encouraging people to combine their efforts, their talents, their insights, their enthusiasm and their inspiration to work together.

People talk to people who perceive nothing, who have open eyes and see nothing; they shall talk to them and receive no answer; they shall adore those who have ears and hear nothing; they shall burn lamps for those who do not see.

Good management consists in showing average people how to do the work of superior people.

Silence is the most perfect expression of scorn.

Anybody can be specific and obvious. That’s always been the easy way. It’s not that it’s so difficult to be unspecific and less obvious; it’s just that there’s nothing, absolutely nothing, to be specific and obvious about.

If two smart, intelligent, clever guys sit together on a table, and you both want the same, where can be the problem? We all want to be successful.

I am neither bitter nor cynical but I do wish there was less immaturity in political thinking.

Insults are the arguments employed by those who are in the wrong.

Could the young but realize how soon they will become mere walking bundles of habits, they would give more heed to their conduct while in the plastic state.

When the players go home, I can’t tell them what to do, so you need to create an atmosphere of trust. I don’t want to think, ‚What are they doing now? Do I need to call them?‘

I don’t want to tell President Obama how to make a speech. He’s a much better speech maker than I am. But I think always to tell the truth in a sometimes blatant way, even though it might be temporarily unpopular, is the best approach.

I once did a three-hour interview with Radio Oxford only to be told the microphone hadn’t picked me up.

If you want what you’re saying heard, then take your time and say it so that the listener will actually hear it. You might save somebody’s life. Your own, first.

I want to let you in on a little secret: I don’t always feel like I’m a success. That’s right. There are plenty of times when I feel like I’ve just totally messed up and failed to connect with the people I’m trying to communicate with.